Understanding The Gottman Method
How do you save a relationship on the rocks? Or improve one stuck in a rut? Clients and therapists recommend the Gottman Method.
"Although you may feel your situation is unique, we have found that all marital conflicts fall into two categories, either they can be resolved or they are perpetual, which means that they will be part of your lives forever in some form or another." Gottman writes in one of his best-selling books, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.
What is the Gottman Method?
The Gottman Method is a common-sense and science-driven approach to couples therapy developed by the Gottman's 44 years of research into successful and unsuccessful relationships.
The research shows that to make a relationship last, couples must become better friends, learn to manage conflict, and create ways to support each other's hopes for the future.
69% of all marital conflicts are ongoing.
Gottman says 69% of all marital conflicts are perpetual, which is why the Gottman method places particular focus on conflict during therapy.
Couples who laugh together last together.
- Dr. John Gottman
Couples who seek help from a Gottman-trained therapist can expect:
Contempt is the sulfuric acid of love.
- Dr. John Gottman
Some of the relationship issues that may be addressed include:
Goals of the Gottman Method
Strengths of the Gottman Method:
- It is based on more than 45 years of scientific research.
- It uses common-sense strategies.
- Works for everyone, regardless of race, ethnicity, cultural background, or gender preferences.
More about the Gottman Method
Dr. John Gottman talks about the science behind happy relationships. He outlines the findings, tools, and techniques that have helped thousands of couples from around the world build a "Sound Relationship House."
Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman explains four of the most corrosive behaviors to relationships if left unrepaired, and what you can do to begin to turn things around.
John M. Gottman explains that couples build trust in the small moments of a relationship, when we're emotionally attuned to our partner.
An animated book summary of The 7 Principles For Making Marriage Work by John M. Gottman. Explainer Video by OnePercentBetter.
