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What do you do when you feel like you have tried to reach the one you love and still end up feeling stuck? EFT can help.

Of couples who use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), research studies find that 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery and approximately 90% show significant improvements.

EFT or Emotionally Focused Therapy offers couples, families and individuals a relatively-short, structured path to solving their relationship problems. Dr. Sue Johnson and Dr. Les Greenberg launched EFT in the early 1980s as a way to help partners find their way back to love and happiness. Since then Dr. Johnson has continued to develop the model and added the study of attachment theory to the mix, helping therapists and couples themselves best understand what is happening in their relationships.

Today EFT is used in private practice, university training centers, hospital clinics and other therapeutic settings around the world. And, it works. Research shows that more than 70 percent of couples who try EFT move from distress to recovery, and about 90 percent show significant improvement. Problems distressed couples address in the sessions include depression, post-traumatic stress disorders and chronic illness.

Strengths of Emotionally Focused Therapy

  • EFT is based on clear, explicit conceptualizations of marital distress and adult love. These conceptualizations are supported by empirical research on the nature of marital distress and adult attachment.
  • EFT is collaborative and respectful of clients. It is a combination of experiential Rogerian techniques with structural systemic interventions.
  • Change strategies and interventions are specified.
  • Key moves and moments in the change process have been mapped into nine steps and three change events.
  • EFT has been validated by over 20 years of empirical research. There is also research on the change processes and predictors of success.
  • EFT has been applied to many different kinds of problems and populations.

Goals of Emotionally Focused Therapy

  • To expand and re-organize key emotional responses – the music of the attachment dance.
  • To create a shift in partners’ interactional positions and initiate new cycles of interaction.
  • To foster the creation of a secure bond between partners

Further reading:

Emotionally Focused Therapy

Dr. Sue Johnson provides a brief summary of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). This leading edge, empirically validated form of therapy which is taught all over the world. EFT is based on the last 50 years of scientific research on bonding: bonding between mother and child and romantic bonds between partners. EFT provides a map to what matters in intimate relationships: how they work, how they go wrong, and what is needed to put them right.

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Understanding EFT

Couples often find themselves having the same fight over and over. Partners can find themselves talking less and less, while the sense of distance starts to feel permanent.

Maybe right now you’re:

  • Avoiding important conversations with your spouse.
  • Feeling distant from your partner and not sure how to feel close to your spouse again.
  • Feeling like the way you cope with your emotions and stress is harming your relationship.
  • Think the spark is gone, and your relationship is bogged down by day-to-day living and tasks.
  • Millions of couples experience these things and therapy can help.

If you are ready to:

  • Find the cause and Rebuild closeness, intimacy and trust in your relationship.
  • Be aware of the issues with (delete with )you are struggling with, so they don’t unconsciously take over.
  • Find ways to healthy cope in a healthy way (delete healthy right before cope) that will be good for your relationship.
  • Reconnect and reenergize your commitment to your partner, knowing that your have each other’s backs.

Love is not a mystery anymore and we now know how to improve marriages and what pitfalls lead to distress and dissolves the love bond.

After more than 26 years, I’ve found that a combination of emotionally focused work (EFT), coupled with our understanding of attachment theory  and practical-based scientific techniques (Gottman Method) is the best way to create significant, lasting change in your relationship.

I am one of the few psychotherapists in the country with training in EFT and Gottman.  Both are proven therapeutic approaches that help couples rekindle their love and deepen their bonds. With my training and experience, I can pick the right therapeutic strategy to help your relationship.

With my training, both science and art, I can help you succeed at love.

MY WORK WITH COUPLES INCLUDES:

  • Pre-marital counseling
  • Affair recovery
  • Divorce recovery
  • Interracial/intercultural issues
  • Other committed couples
  • Intensive couples sessions
  • Issues with step-families

What to expect:

A structured, in-depth assessment one in the first three meetings (one for each partner, and one for the couple together). (Rachel please re-write this one: the first meeting is with the couple, then I meet individually with each person).

Then based on that assessment I give you feedback on strengths and challenges in your relationship and a “road map” for your therapeutic journey.

More about the Modalities I am trained in:

What is EFT?

(link http://www.iceeft.com/index.php/about-us/what-is-eft)

In paraphrasing founder Sue Johnson:

In EFT we look a the negative dance you and your partner are caught in and how it leaves you both hurt and frustrated.

We help you create a new dance that is safer, closer and more satisfying. We talk about emotions because they are the music of the dance. In EFT we help you understand the signals you send that might make it hard for your partner to come close and help you send new signals that pull your partner towards you. We help you dance together – in harmony. 

“In EFT we look at the dance you are caught in and how it leaves you both hurting and frustrated. We help you step out of your negative dance and create a new dance that is safer, closer and more satisfying. We talk about emotions a lot because they are the music of the dance – we help you understand the signals you send that might make it hard for your partner to come close and help you send new emotional signals that pull your partner towards you and help you dance together – in harmony. “

What is the Gottman Method:

The Gottman method of couples therapy, uses scientific research from 35 years of studying the dynamics of successful — and unsuccessful — couples. www.gottman.com.)

John Gottman’s research shows that to make a relationship last, couples must become better friends, learn to manage conflict, and create ways to support each other’s hopes for the future.

www.gottman.com.)

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