There is a Pablo Neruda poem that begins:
“What’s wrong with you, with us, what’s happening to us?”
I hear those same questions, those same doubts expressed regularly in my office.
It’s only human to wonder, what is love really? And if I haven’t found it with my spouse, will I ever find it?
Over the past 30 years, in a quest for answers to those very questions, I have made the study of relationships my life’s work.
Here are just a few things you can do to strengthen your relationship that I have learned along the path:
- We long to know we matter to each other, but even more importantly, we want to be that chosen one. Show your partner every day in words and actions: I choose you. I want you to be mine.
- When your partner is talking to you, make sure you pause, turn around, look and listen.
- Remember your body language reveals more than your words.
- You might be the only person your partner can talk to about his or her true feelings. Honor that.
- When you are reunited, take the time to practice the rituals of re-connection. That could mean something as simple as a lingering kiss or a hug or a question. “How was your day?”
- At bedtime, hold each other. What could be sweeter?
- And yes, say yes to sex. We all need physical as well as emotional intimacy.
Thank you for tuning into my new blog, and in the next few weeks and months, I’ll look forward to addressing your relationship issues. Just drop me a line and let me know what you’d like to read about.