Therapy for Medical Marriages

How do you to build a resilient medical marriage?

As a therapist married to a cardiovascular surgeon, Liliane knows the pressures doctors face — long hours, competing responsibilities, high stress, and burnout. But she also knows the pressures their partners face, whether they are stay-at-home parents, physicians or professionals engaged in other high-stress fields.
She and her surgeon husband have been married for more than 35 years, and they have survived the stresses and strains of medical training and starting and maintaining a medical practice. With love, they have built two rewarding careers, raised a wonderful, well-adjusted daughter and continue to nurture and support each other.

While all couples have struggles, medical marriages have unique challenges.

Ask yourself some simple questions:

  • Is the person you’re sharing your life with the most important?
  • Are you trying to be successful at work and in your marriage but finding it more and more challenging to manage both?

Couple’s therapy can help keep life’s challenges in perspective.

You can use most any measure
When you are speaking of success.

You can measure it in fancy home,
Expensive car or dress.

But the measure of your real success
Is one you cannot spend.

It’s the way your son describes you
when he is talking to a friend.

— Martin Buxbaum

More about the modalities I am trained in:

What is EFT?

In paraphrasing founder Sue Johnson:

In EFT we look a the negative dance you and your partner are caught in and how it leaves you both hurt and frustrated.

I can help you create a new dance that is safer, closer and more satisfying. We talk about emotions because they are the music of the dance. In EFT we help you understand the signals you send that might make it hard for your partner to come close and help you send new signals that pull your partner towards you. We help you dance together – in harmony. 

What is the Gottman Method:

The Gottman Method of couples therapy, uses scientific research from 35 years of studying the dynamics of successful — and unsuccessful — couples.

John Gottman’s research shows that to make a relationship last, couples must become better friends, learn to manage conflict, and create ways to support each other’s hopes for the future.

Please note: In my practice I do not accept any insurance. The appropriate documents will be handed to you so you can file your own claim. You may want to check with your insurance carrier for coverage before we meet.

Ready to build a resilient medical marriage? Please, get in touch.

Contact Liliane

Medical Marriages

Couples often find themselves having the same fight over and over. Partners can find themselves talking less and less, while the sense of distance starts to feel permanent.

Maybe right now you’re:

  • Avoiding important conversations with your spouse.
  • Feeling distant from your partner and not sure how to feel close to your spouse again.
  • Feeling like the way you cope with your emotions and stress is harming your relationship.
  • Think the spark is gone, and your relationship is bogged down by day-to-day living and tasks.
  • Millions of couples experience these things and therapy can help.

If you are ready to:

  • Find the cause and Rebuild closeness, intimacy and trust in your relationship.
  • Be aware of the issues with (delete with )you are struggling with, so they don’t unconsciously take over.
  • Find ways to healthy cope in a healthy way (delete healthy right before cope) that will be good for your relationship.
  • Reconnect and reenergize your commitment to your partner, knowing that your have each other’s backs.

Love is not a mystery anymore and we now know how to improve marriages and what pitfalls lead to distress and dissolves the love bond.

After more than 26 years, I’ve found that a combination of emotionally focused work (EFT), coupled with our understanding of attachment theory  and practical-based scientific techniques (Gottman Method) is the best way to create significant, lasting change in your relationship.

I am one of the few psychotherapists in the country with training in EFT and Gottman.  Both are proven therapeutic approaches that help couples rekindle their love and deepen their bonds. With my training and experience, I can pick the right therapeutic strategy to help your relationship.

With my training, both science and art, I can help you succeed at love.

MY WORK WITH COUPLES INCLUDES:

  • Pre-marital counseling
  • Affair recovery
  • Divorce recovery
  • Interracial/intercultural issues
  • Other committed couples
  • Intensive couples sessions
  • Issues with step-families

What to expect:

A structured, in-depth assessment one in the first three meetings (one for each partner, and one for the couple together). (Rachel please re-write this one: the first meeting is with the couple, then I meet individually with each person).

Then based on that assessment I give you feedback on strengths and challenges in your relationship and a “road map” for your therapeutic journey.

More about the Modalities I am trained in:

What is EFT?

(link http://www.iceeft.com/index.php/about-us/what-is-eft)

In paraphrasing founder Sue Johnson:

In EFT we look a the negative dance you and your partner are caught in and how it leaves you both hurt and frustrated.

We help you create a new dance that is safer, closer and more satisfying. We talk about emotions because they are the music of the dance. In EFT we help you understand the signals you send that might make it hard for your partner to come close and help you send new signals that pull your partner towards you. We help you dance together – in harmony. 

“In EFT we look at the dance you are caught in and how it leaves you both hurting and frustrated. We help you step out of your negative dance and create a new dance that is safer, closer and more satisfying. We talk about emotions a lot because they are the music of the dance – we help you understand the signals you send that might make it hard for your partner to come close and help you send new emotional signals that pull your partner towards you and help you dance together – in harmony. “

What is the Gottman Method:

The Gottman method of couples therapy, uses scientific research from 35 years of studying the dynamics of successful — and unsuccessful — couples. www.gottman.com.)

John Gottman’s research shows that to make a relationship last, couples must become better friends, learn to manage conflict, and create ways to support each other’s hopes for the future.

www.gottman.com.)

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